In this fourth and final article regarding lessons of a community builder, I want to extend a heartfelt thank you to Orrin Woodward and the rest of the Policy Council. It is because of their personal sacrifices and dedication to purpose and excellence that all of us have such incredible information on how to successfully build communities through TEAM and have the opportunity to pursue the life we’ve always wanted through LIFE. I hope you have enjoyed this series of articles and have found these lessons helpful.
Be a Problem Solver: As previously mentioned in this series, community builders need to use empathy rather than sympathy when helping people succeed in life. The reason why people are where they are at in life is because of the information they allow into their head, which leads to the way they think, which leads to the decisions they make, which leads to the actions they take, which leads to the life they are living. When you meet someone who is not happy with where they are at in life, you will find a big reason is because they continually allow obstacles to get in the way of doing the things that are necessary to make positive changes in their life. Empathy says that you understand what they are going through, but you don’t allow their excuses to stop them from doing the right things. This will require you to become good at empathetic listening and solving problems. Because of their current thinking, they will need someone with an outside perspective to help them think “outside the box”. Someone to offer solutions to obstacles that they would have previously allowed to stop them from doing what’s needed to positively change their circumstances. The better problem solver you become; the more people you’ll help; the bigger the difference you’ll make; the faster you’ll live the life you’ve always wanted. Check out Habit 5 in Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.
Become a Great Edifier: Edification is a biblical principle that in layman’s terms means to uplift and speak favorably about a specific individual or group to another individual or group. It is very important when edifying someone that only characteristics that are honest and true about that person are used to uplift. If you’ve ever heard someone give false edification using characteristics that aren’t honest and truthful, it is very obvious and usually results in a negative impression on both parties involved in the edification process. When used properly with truth, honesty, and a sincere heart, edification is a very powerful principle. The best edifiers have the biggest communities; and the biggest communities have the best edifiers. Become great at truthful, honest, sincere edification. Listen multiple times to TEAM 1 – “Edification, Duplication, Association” CD by Orrin Woodward in the “Top 50″. In fact, go ahead and listen to the rest of the Top 50 while you’re at it…you won’t regret it (even if you’ve listened to it before).
Get Your Worldview Right: I was raised and confirmed Lutheran, believed in God, but at 32 years of age, if you would have asked me to explain my worldview, I wouldn’t have been able to do it. At that point in my life, my worldview was that faith time with God was on Sundays from 9:30am – 10:30am and that the rest of the week was broken into work time, family time, fun time, etc. In addition, I did not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I knew of Him, but did not have a relationship with Him…which are two drastically different things. Back in those days, I believed that all the 8 “F’s” that we talk about in LIFE were separate from one another. Today, I now know that 7 of the “F’s” are governed by the 8th “F” (Faith), and that having a personal relationship on a daily basis with Jesus Christ is crucial…not just for life on earth, but for life eternal. I know that as each of you read this article, everyone’s worldview may be all over the place, but I strongly recommend seeking and understanding why you believe what you believe…you just might surprise yourself with what you discover. I would recommend starting your journey by listening to the “No Regrets – AGO First Night Pack” and “The LIFE of Christ Pack”. Remember, you’re going to be gone from this world a lot longer than you’ll be in this world…eternity is a long time to be wrong about your worldview…please take the time to get it right.
Resolve Conflict: If you’ve been around the community building industry for any length of time, you may have heard the following statement, or something similar, “Building communities is great because of the people, but it sure can be frustrating at times because of the people.” God has made us all different. In fact, it is because of those differences that communities are so powerful. But, at the same time, it is because of those differences that we will encounter conflicts with people. Unresolved conflict within a community of people over time will fester and spread like a cancer…ultimately having devastating results. Don’t allow conflict to have more than 24 hours of life…deal with it and resolve it immediately. Read Chapter 10 in Orrin Woodward’s book, “RESOLVED: 13 Resolutions for LIFE”.
I want to end this series with the following thought: The only difference between ordinary and extraordinary, is a little extra…this world needs you to be extraordinary!
Have a great week and God bless,
Eric C. Blomdahl