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How Bad Do You Want It????

With Super Bowl Sunday behind us and the Baltimore Ravens earning the title, “World Champions”, I started thinking about why the Super Bowl has developed into such a big deal. Why do grown men playing a game cry on national television for the world to see? Why does the entire world drop what they are doing for five hours on a Sunday night to watch a football game? The only thing I could think of was that there has to be more to it than most realize.

What I discovered was, that God has created each of us with a desire for pursuing excellence and achieving greatness. In our society, it shows up more in sports than other areas of our life, but the fact remains, humans have an internal drive for purpose, meaning and greatness.

Now, just because we aren’t athletes doesn’t mean we don’t have that drive within us, it’s still there, but it tends to get lost in the daily struggles of earning a living for our families. I want to throw out what I concluded this past weekend…no matter what each of us do for a living, we each have the opportunity to play in our own respective “super bowl” in life. The questions to ask then are: 1) Are you performing at a level that will help you reach and win your “super bowl”? and 2) How bad do you want it?…..

Go win your “Super Bowl” and become a “Champion” in life!!!!!

Gob bless and have a great day,

Eric C. Blomdahl

Who Will Step Up and Save America?

If you’ve been following the news over the past several weeks, it is becoming increasingly apparent that America is in trouble. With every news report coming out of Washington D.C., we Americans are losing our freedoms at a very rapid rate. It is very obvious that Republicans won’t cooperate with Democrats and Democrats won’t cooperate with Republicans. With that being said, how can any of our problems be solved…with both sides being unwilling to work together? …with both sides blaming each other? …with Washington D.C. giving up our freedoms with no concern for future generations?

So, who will step up and save America?

I am neither a Republican, nor a Democrat…I am a proud American who loves this country and who is committed to do my part to make America great again. Therefore, it is with great excitement that I share with you the following article: LeaderShift: Orrin Woodward and Oliver DeMille

If you too are concerned with the direction America is heading and you found the above article intriguing, mark your calendar and make sure you get a copy of “LeaderShift” by Orrin Woodward and Oliver DeMille when it is released on April 16, 2013.

God bless,

Eric C. Blomdahl

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year everyone! 2013 holds great potential for each of you…go make great things happen…God is behind you 100%

God bless,

The Blomdahl Family

What is Really “Real”?

I received a text a couple of weeks ago from a good friend and LIFE business associate as follows: “In Depth Viking Style by Tim Marks he says, “It’s not time to be a realist.” How does one not be a realist when they are a realist?” says a realist is “a person who tends to view or represent things as they really are.”

A realist once said, “Man can not fly!” But then a man flew.
A realist once said, “Man can not walk on the moon!” But then a man walked on the moon.
A realist once said, “You have nothing to worry about with Sam Walton, he’ll never make it.” But then Sam made Wal-Mart the #1 retailer in the world.
A realist said, “Man will never break the four-minute mile.” But then a man ran a mile in 3 mins, 59.4 seconds.

So, what is really “real”?

It is clear in the above examples that what is defined as “real” by one person, isn’t necessarily what another person chooses to be “real” for them. So, what’s the difference?

In order to determine what’s “real”, it is necessary to understand what’s true. Therefore, it is very important that a person have a biblical-based understanding of the world. God made each of us with dreams, desires, passions, talents and abilities that together equip us to find and fulfill our purpose. If God has allowed us to think it, then God will help us to make it happen. In addition, it is vital (eternal life depends on it) to understand how special we are to God…He sacrificed His only Son so that we can one day be united with Him in heaven. Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” With this understanding, we are unstoppable.

The next hurdle is to stop doing things based upon logic and start doing things based upon emotion. Logically, there are many things that can’t be done, but emotionally someone has done them. In last year’s NFL play-offs, logically the Green Bay Packers at 15-1 should have went to the Super Bowl, but the New York Giants at 9-7 beat the Packers and went on to win the Super Bowl.

Here are some recommendations to help expand what is “real” for you:

1) Live daily with God as your center and know that if He allowed you to think it, He will help you accomplish it.

2) Continually dream build and expand your imagination.

3) Associate regularly with uplifting and encouraging people.

4) Get involved in a self-directed education program and work specifically on developing a “can do” attitude.

5) Mentor regularly.

6) Be willing to fail and understand that failure is just a part of success.

So in conclusion, when a realist really evaluates what’s really “real”, they will find that the “real” they once thought was real isn’t really real after all and that the real “real” can be so much more than what they originally thought was real…really.

The following video is old, but worth watching. Actual footage of Roger Bannister doing what the realists said couldn’t be done…way to go Roger!!!!!

God bless,

Eric C. Blomdahl

LIFE Business – Incredible First Year

WOW!!!! Amazing article posted by Orrin Woodward with a summary of the first year results of the LIFE Business. Check it out…LIFE Business: First Year Results

I hope everyone is getting on board for an incredible journey.

God bless and have a great day!

Eric C. Blomdahl

Raquel Peters, Unjustified Criticism, and the Truth

One of the many benefits that come from being associated with LIFE/TEAM, Orrin Woodward and the other Policy Council/Co-Founders is the true friends you meet along the self-improvement and community-building journey. Prior to this association, all my friendships were superficial and were really more acquaintances than friendships. I found out over time that when you develop the courage to step out of your comfort zone and begin to meet new people, God has a way of blessing you by putting fantastic individuals/couples in your life. I could spend the next month writing blog articles about all the great people God has placed in my life because of LIFE/TEAM, but I want to focus this article on one specific friendship that has developed over the years with Tim and Jennifer Samuels. Together, we’ve been through good times and bad times, but what sets this friendship apart is that when times have gotten tough, our friendship has grown stronger.

For those of you who follow this blog, you are well aware of the fact that over the past several years I have received unjustified criticism from Raquel Peters. What you may not be aware of is that over the past several months, Raquel’s negative attacks have intensified through on-line posts, phone calls, texts and personal meetings with various team members within my organization. She will tell you that her intentions are noble and that she only wants to protect people so they don’t go through what she went through over the past several years. But please don’t be fooled, everything Raquel has “went through” has been self-inflicted due to pride, ego and her unwillingness to participate in conflict resolution early on while all this was unfolding. I’m sure that Raquel would like our business to suffer because of her negative attacks, but the sad part about her actions is that the real victims are the individuals that believe her distorted version of what really happened and that have allowed Raquel to steal their dreams for a better future. To those individuals, please ask Raquel one simple question, “If LIFE/TEAM isn’t the answer to a better future, then what is your plan to help me live the life I’ve always wanted?” I’m guessing she won’t be able to provide an answer…at least one that will truly produce the results you’re looking for in life.

Tim and Jennifer not only had a front row seat while the Peters situation transpired, but they have also sat quietly over the past several years watching Raquel continually spread misleading information that has negatively impacted many innocent lives. As you may know, Tim and Raquel are cousins…a fact that Raquel uses to gain sympathy and support for her side of the story….”even my own cousin turned on me.” When in actuality, if anyone turned on anybody, it was Raquel that turned on Tim. I know Tim very well and I know that he values family very much. In fact, it is because of his value of family that he hasn’t confronted this issue sooner in hopes that Raquel would move on with her life and stop interfering with LIFE/TEAM members. But since Raquel insists on continuing her negative attacks, Tim and Jennifer have decided that the time has come when getting the truth out and doing what’s right is more important than being silent…even if a family member is involved. Therefore, Tim and Jennifer have written an article that relates to the ongoing criticisms/actions of Raquel and I would like to share that article with you. The following article has been written by Tim and Jennifer Samuels on their own volition and is posted below with their permission:

“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” 
― Martin Luther King Jr.

We have come to a point where we have decided that we can no longer stay silent about the events over the past several years. We have watched our friends and colleagues get slandered and lied about for too long. This is our story as it unfolded from the beginning.

We were contacted in January 2003 by Raquel Peters, Tim’s cousin, to get started in a business in which she had recently gotten started. From the very beginning, we were all in – not the fastest builders but believed in the principles and beliefs of the leaders and TEAM. As time passed we chose to mentor with Eric Blomdahl as he was the best fit for us – that was a decision that Raquel knew about. From very early in our involvement with TEAM, we never made that a secret.

In 2007, we left our affiliate company, Quixtar, through our own choice. We were not asked to leave Quixtar but based upon our own decision, chose to do so. During that time, we were still aligned closely with the Blomdahl’s. We had already started to see a separation within our team due to lack of communication with the Peters, the Blomdahl’s and us. Between August 2007 – March 2008, we all were working to hold our team together during our six month non-compete time.

When it came time to organize the team for registration in Mona Vie, and after developing a game plan with Eric, we talked to the Peters to verify who was going to talk to different parts of the group, how we were going to organize the registrations and when those registrations would be put into the computer. Two days before the date we had talked about we received a call from Mark Peters, Raquel’s husband, to let us know that “the registrations won’t be going into Mona Vie the way you think they are, the way George is doing it isn’t right.” That was the last communication with the Peters or the Morgan’s with regards to the registration process. As the deadline approached the Guzzardo’s, Blomdahl’s and ourselves tried many times to reach the Peters and Morgan’s trying to get clarification as to why the information we had received was different. None of our phone calls were ever returned. We attempted to get the registrations entered through the Blomdahl’s but on the night of registrations, the Peters called Tim where Raquel screamed and swore at him about the entire process. That was the last major communication we had with the Peters until July/August 2008. Later that same night we received a call from Eric explaining that the Peters had effectively locked him out from doing any further registrations in our team. He went on to explain that he had just gotten off the phone with Jill Guzzardo and that the plan was for him to register the part of our team he had left under himself and that the next day Jill would move them into their correct spot. The balance of the registrations for that group were the Peters responsibility and neither ourselves or the Blomdahl’s where involved. Mrs. Peters also claims that “we were given her third team during the Mona Vie registration process”. As we explained above, we had nothing to do with the placement of her third team – where to place them was her decision. Within several months that team was as well as several other large groups of our teams were “blown out” by conversations that the Peters had with them regarding the registration process. However from what we were told, the Peters never told anyone that they refused to cooperate or communicate with us or the Blomdahl’s to try and do anything different.

We had approached a couple that we personally sponsored during the late summer of 2008. We met with them at their home to sit down and talk about what was going on. At that time, relationships within the team had been strained. We had asked them if things were ok between us or if there were problems that they wanted to discuss. They stated at the end of the meeting that everything was ok between us and there was nothing to discuss. This meeting would be one of the last communications we would have with that couple.

We then sat down to meet with the Peters in August 2008 to discuss what had happened during the registration process and why things were so strained between us. When we arrived at the meeting, Raquel told us that her dad (Tim’s uncle) had been diagnosed with a terminal illness. She was incredibly distraught due to the news. Tim asked if she wanted to postpone the meeting but she said no. We did discuss where the confusion came from, and we left agreeing that we were following the mentoring and direction we were given by the Blomdahl’s and the Peters were following the direction given by the Morgan’s and that it was hard to fault one another for following their mentors. We left agreeing that then we needed to work on better communications and reestablish some shaken trust. That was the last face-to-face communication we had with the Peters to discuss what was going on between us.

We started to hear rumors in December 2008 from people on our team that the Peters were leaving TEAM and that the Blomdahl’s had been trying to destroy their business. We were never contacted by the Peters directly to hear that they were leaving or that they had additional issues with us or TEAM. During that same time period we were told that individuals (that we had directly sponsored or were working directly with in depth) in our team were being told by the Peters that we were “off-track”. At the St. Louis Major in February 2009, one couple in our second leg was asked to text Melanie Morgan with regular updates as to what was happening there. Melanie Morgan had never worked in our second team so it was quite upsetting to find out that all of a sudden she was texting with this couple.

We sent a letter to Mona Vie in January 2009 outlining the situation with the Peters and what was happening (Please see the attached letter in its entirety: Page 1, Page 2). We did not hear back from anyone at Mona Vie but hoped that this would stop the craziness that was going on in our business. It did not. For months, the Peters continued to disparage us, the Blomdahl’s, the Guzzardo’s, the Hawkins and the Woodward’s. This was destroying our team. The Peters claim that they build our taproot for us for years. Yet, we were out building the team just as they were. At that point, we decided enough was enough. We were not going to allow the Peters to continue to ravage our team and blow people out of our business. We needed to take steps to protect the people that we were working and building with. In June 2009, we sent a letter to the TEAM Office of our own accord. We were not asked to do this despite the claims made by Mrs. Peters that we were coerced into this action. (Please see the attached letter in its entirety: Page 1, Page 2). We would like to add one footnote – we made a typographical error in the year that we got started. It was 2003 not 2001 as stated in the letter – a mistake made on our part. We wanted to no longer be linked to the Peters as they were destroying what we had built. The Blomdahl’s did not “steal” us as claimed by the Peters. The last time we checked, we were not property – we were free. When the Peters went around to our team disparaging us and telling them to quit, we did not come back to them saying that they “stole people out of our business” – especially the ones that we personally sponsored. We had made a decision that if those people chose to leave, that was their choice – not for us to try to hold them hostage in the business. We stand by this decision as this business requires a positive working relationship with the same values and ethics. This environment no longer existed with the Peters.

In July 2009, Tim’s father had a conversation with his brother (Raquel’s father) and that Raquel had told her dad that she had tried to get in touch with Tim but he had not returned her calls. We never received any calls from the Peters. Tim sent the attached email message to Raquel to attempt to sit down and meet with them. (See attached email in its entirety: E-mail) As you can see, the Peters had made a decision that they were not going to sit down and speak with us at all. This ended the communication between us and the Peters.

We had hoped that this situation would be able to be resolved without having to come to this point. Yet, the Peters have continued to disparage us verbally and through posts on the internet – both on Mrs. Peters’ Facebook page and blog sites. These sites say things like “we want the lying to stop” and “the truth has to be told.” The Peters claim that TEAM took away their residual income; they chose to leave TEAM. Did they formally quit? We don’t know. They told many people that they did. And let’s be honest if you go around and trash your boss behind their back would you expect to still have a job. Mrs. Peters claims on her Facebook site she was not given her spot???? Why would she expect to? She has spent years slandering, disparaging, and attacking the very group she wanted to be welcomed back into, we don’t understand that. The residual income the Peters built was in Mona Vie, and when the Peters decided to destroy their “team” the Peters destroyed that income as well. We were told by several people that “The Peters were not leaving Mona Vie and would continue to build and support those people that left TEAM.” The Peters did not do this and their Mona Vie income reflects their actions. At No point have we come back to the Peters with regards to the fact that WE lost most of our Mona Vie income because of the Peters’ actions. In all of the information we have seen she never addresses that.

Many times Mrs. Peters has claimed that people were stolen from her, she has spent hundreds if not thousands of hours over the years proving that they were not “the property” of TEAM, the Woodward’s, or the Blomdahl’s. If she is right then how could any of us be her property? In our eyes she is the thief, we know of many people that had hope, because of the information and association in TEAM, that they could improve their finances, or mend relationships with their son or be a stay at home parent. The actions of the Peters and Morgan’s took that away from them. What did Mrs. Peters give them when she stole their hope?

The time had come for us to defend those about whom lies are being told. All we want is for the truth to be told. We want the lies to stop regarding us, the Blomdahl’s, the Guzzardo’s, the Hawkins and the Woodward’s. We are not self-righteous, we only believe in one absolute truth, but we know for a fact that the “truth” the Peters want the world to believe is based on what they want people to believe, not actually what happened. We want the Peters to just move forward with their lives and cease their remarks. The Peters made their decision three years ago to leave TEAM – now the Peters need to respect our decision to stay and build our business.

Tim and Jennifer Samuels

Tim and Jennifer did a great job in providing their side of the story in their article. All the links with the supporting documentation clearly shows that Raquel’s actions and behavior were a concern for quite some time and that attempts were made to try and get a handle on her actions before things got worse. Unfortunately, the fact that you’re reading this article is evidence that those attempts were unsuccessful. The other thing that stood out as I read their article was the irony regarding Raquel‘s “stolen team“ claim…the one claiming a team was stolen from her is actually the one doing the stealing from the Samuels‘. I’ve never been able to figure this one out…Raquel’s negative attacks blew out members of her own team and then she complained because her income dropped…??????

Tim and Jennifer briefly mention Raquel’s claim that her TEAM income was taken away. I would like to add some additional information regarding that claim. Earlier in this article, I mentioned that what Raquel has “been through” was self-inflicted. The following three points are perfect examples of what I am referring to when I make that statement:

1) Raquel made phone calls, scheduled meetings and met with numerous people within her team all on her own and announced that she had made the decision to leave TEAM. In addition, at a Mona Vie tasting party, she openly promoted Black Diamond University…which is perfectly fine to do, but she did so knowing very well that the Black Diamond University is a completely different method and philosophy of building communities than TEAM. She had every right to leave TEAM and switch to Black Diamond University, but then I think it’s only fair to expect her to take personal responsibility for her decision and actions and not blame others for the loss of TEAM income.

2) TEAM scheduled a “Go Black Diamond” meeting in Cleveland, OH and at that function had a special meeting for all Directors to review, ask questions, and sign the Director’s Agreement. All Directors were invited, including Raquel, and she chose not to attend the meeting. Again, she had every right to decide not to attend, but then I think it’s only fair to take responsibility for that decision and not blame others because she refused to attend a meeting and sign an agreement.

3) Raquel is quick to point fingers and blame everyone else for her predicament, but Raquel had options available to her when this situation was starting to “snowball” out of control. She could have implemented conflict resolution to resolve this matter…Orrin offered his help several times…she refused every time. Raquel also turned down Tim’s attempt to resolve this matter in the e-mail linked above in the Samuels’ article. Instead, the path she chose was to spend the last three years launching a negative attack campaign. Two things I have learned regarding life: 1) The only person responsible for our decisions and actions is our self; and 2) Our decisions and actions have consequences.

The above three points are perfect examples of how Raquel’s predicament is the result of her own decisions and actions. The following questions sum it all up: If an employee decides and announces they are leaving the company; then they refuse to attend a meeting and sign that company’s employee contract, then they refuse multiple attempts to help them resolve the conflict; and then they chose to spend the next three years slandering that company and its employees…would you expect that company to welcome them with open arms? Continue to pay them? Have former co-workers continue to do business with them? Have them be a spokesman/representative for the company? When viewing this example objectively from the company’s and co-worker’s perspective, I believe we all would agree the answer to be an unequivocal…No! So it is really unclear why Raquel feels it should be any different for her situation. It is unfortunate that the consequences of Raquel’s decisions and actions turned out poorly for her, but the time has come for her to take responsibility for her actions and move on with her life.

I am sure that Raquel and her supporters will come up with interesting responses in an attempt to refute this article, but if you’re like me, the “back and forth” is getting old. This dispute has dragged on way too long and has developed into a “he said; she said” situation. Causing everyone to wonder, “Okay, who’s really telling the truth here?” The time has come to get this matter behind us once and for all so that everyone involved can get on with their lives and get back to constructive things. I have reviewed all the posts, texts, activities, and documentation regarding Raquel’s activities. And in the process, the number of people who are willing to be personal witnesses is overwhelming. Therefore, I have decided it is time to get an outside, impartial, third-party involved to help resolve this matter. So I wanted each of you to be the first to know that I have turned this matter over to my attorney and we have asked a judge to step in and determine who’s telling the truth.

I know there will be opinions for and against this decision, but based upon Raquel’s latest attacks and the number of innocent lives that have been affected by her attacks, I feel it is the only course of action that will resolve this matter quickly and effectively. And in the end, if the judge determines I am wrong, I will be the first to publicly apologize to Raquel. Conversely, if the judge determines Raquel is wrong, then I would expect her to do the same in return.

In the meantime, I ask that all of you please say prayers for everyone involved so that this matter can be resolved quickly so we can get back to making a positive difference in people‘s lives.

I thank you in advance for all your thoughts and prayers…they are greatly appreciated.

God bless and have a great day!

Eric C. Blomdahl

Vital Behavior: Challenge Groups and Live Opens

Orrin Woodward and the other co-founders of LIFE have developed, in my opinion, the best business modelon the planet to improve the quality of people’s lives. Is it perfect…no, but it’s simply the best. If you ever wanted to be part of something big that can produce life-long results, building compensated communities is it!

When building compensated communities, there are several habits that need to be implemented into our daily activities in order to have lasting results. Perhaps one of the most important vital behaviors is to regularly attend both live opens and challenge groups. Exploding teams have consistent and increasing numbers at both live opens and challenge groups. Not attending either one because you don’t have a new person to bring is wrong thinking. Having the attitude that challenge group night is a “night off” is wrong thinking. If you want to build a strong and growing compensated community, attending and supporting your community every Tuesday night is crucial.

Here is a great article from Orrin Woodward regarding challenge groups and community…check it out: Challenge Groups & Community


God bless and have a great day!

Eric C. Blomdahl

Lessons of a Community Builder – Part 4 and Final

In this fourth and final article regarding lessons of a community builder, I want to extend a heartfelt thank you to Orrin Woodward and the rest of the Policy Council. It is because of their personal sacrifices and dedication to purpose and excellence that all of us have such incredible information on how to successfully build communities through TEAM and have the opportunity to pursue the life we’ve always wanted through LIFE. I hope you have enjoyed this series of articles and have found these lessons helpful.

Be a Problem Solver: As previously mentioned in this series, community builders need to use empathy rather than sympathy when helping people succeed in life. The reason why people are where they are at in life is because of the information they allow into their head, which leads to the way they think, which leads to the decisions they make, which leads to the actions they take, which leads to the life they are living. When you meet someone who is not happy with where they are at in life, you will find a big reason is because they continually allow obstacles to get in the way of doing the things that are necessary to make positive changes in their life. Empathy says that you understand what they are going through, but you don’t allow their excuses to stop them from doing the right things. This will require you to become good at empathetic listening and solving problems. Because of their current thinking, they will need someone with an outside perspective to help them think “outside the box”. Someone to offer solutions to obstacles that they would have previously allowed to stop them from doing what’s needed to positively change their circumstances. The better problem solver you become; the more people you’ll help; the bigger the difference you’ll make; the faster you’ll live the life you’ve always wanted. Check out Habit 5 in Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.

Become a Great Edifier: Edification is a biblical principle that in layman’s terms means to uplift and speak favorably about a specific individual or group to another individual or group. It is very important when edifying someone that only characteristics that are honest and true about that person are used to uplift. If you’ve ever heard someone give false edification using characteristics that aren’t honest and truthful, it is very obvious and usually results in a negative impression on both parties involved in the edification process. When used properly with truth, honesty, and a sincere heart, edification is a very powerful principle. The best edifiers have the biggest communities; and the biggest communities have the best edifiers. Become great at truthful, honest, sincere edification. Listen multiple times to TEAM 1 – “Edification, Duplication, Association” CD by Orrin Woodward in the “Top 50″. In fact, go ahead and listen to the rest of the Top 50 while you’re at it…you won’t regret it (even if you’ve listened to it before).

Get Your Worldview Right: I was raised and confirmed Lutheran, believed in God, but at 32 years of age, if you would have asked me to explain my worldview, I wouldn’t have been able to do it. At that point in my life, my worldview was that faith time with God was on Sundays from 9:30am – 10:30am and that the rest of the week was broken into work time, family time, fun time, etc. In addition, I did not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I knew of Him, but did not have a relationship with Him…which are two drastically different things. Back in those days, I believed that all the 8 “F’s” that we talk about in LIFE were separate from one another. Today, I now know that 7 of the “F’s” are governed by the 8th “F” (Faith), and that having a personal relationship on a daily basis with Jesus Christ is crucial…not just for life on earth, but for life eternal. I know that as each of you read this article, everyone’s worldview may be all over the place, but I strongly recommend seeking and understanding why you believe what you believe…you just might surprise yourself with what you discover. I would recommend starting your journey by listening to the “No Regrets – AGO First Night Pack” and “The LIFE of Christ Pack”. Remember, you’re going to be gone from this world a lot longer than you’ll be in this world…eternity is a long time to be wrong about your worldview…please take the time to get it right.

Resolve Conflict: If you’ve been around the community building industry for any length of time, you may have heard the following statement, or something similar, “Building communities is great because of the people, but it sure can be frustrating at times because of the people.” God has made us all different. In fact, it is because of those differences that communities are so powerful. But, at the same time, it is because of those differences that we will encounter conflicts with people. Unresolved conflict within a community of people over time will fester and spread like a cancer…ultimately having devastating results. Don’t allow conflict to have more than 24 hours of life…deal with it and resolve it immediately. Read Chapter 10 in Orrin Woodward’s book, “RESOLVED: 13 Resolutions for LIFE”.

I want to end this series with the following thought: The only difference between ordinary and extraordinary, is a little extra…this world needs you to be extraordinary!

Have a great week and God bless,

Eric C. Blomdahl

Lessons of a Community Builder – Part 3

I am so grateful and blessed to have been given the opportunity to be associated with Orrin Woodward and the rest of the Policy Council. The information that they have developed regarding building communities through TEAM and helping people live the life they’ve always wanted through LIFE is world-class. I hope you find these lessons helpful.

Lessons of a Community Builder – Part 3:

Stop worrying about what others think of you: For as long as I can remember, I worried about what others would think of me…at work, at church, other parents, neighbors…just about everyone. So naturally, this worry carried over when I started building communities too. And because of that worry, the speed at which I would grow my community was very slow. I would not contact great people who were probably in “the looking zone” for fear they’d think something negative of me…how selfish. I represented the greatest business in the world (LIFE) and because of my own selfish insecurities, I was withholding an opportunity from people that could allow them to pursue the life they’ve always wanted. Then one day I was listening to a sermon and the pastor made the following statement, “Instead of worrying about what other people think of you, start worrying about what God thinks of you.” That sentence changed my entire perspective. If you are pursuing your God-given purpose, who cares what others think of you. At that point, I decided that what God thinks of me will govern my life. Since that decision, it’s amazing how much more confidence a person has when dealing with people. Remember, in the end, it’s much more important to hear, “Well done thy good and faithful servant.”; than to have your neighbor approve of what you are doing. I recommend the following: “The Christian Comfort Guide”.

Don’t argue with people: This principle is best explained through an example. Awhile back, I was getting a gentleman started in the community and he made a statement that he does not attend seminars of any kind. He was very adamant about his position. In the past, I would have responded like most people and proceed to explain to him how awesome these seminars are, how it is so important for him to go, and actually start to argue with him. This would only drive a wedge in between us and I would have lost my ability to positively influence him. As the saying goes, “A person convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.” But, in this case, I just responded with “I understand” and left him more CD’s. Each time I saw him, I would feed him more CD’s, remind him of his dream and just be his friend. Now, he did not go to the very next seminar, but he did contact me a month later and asked me how he could get a ticket for the next seminar. I could have argued with him, after all, I knew I was right and he was wrong, but what I learned is that I had to let him learn he was wrong on his own by feeding him CD’s and just being a friend to him. I strongly recommend everyone read, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”.

Be an uplifting and encouraging person: Most people find themselves in environments throughout the course of their day that are negative, critical, depressing, and degrading. The reason why communities are so appealing to people is because they are looking for association that is different from their everyday routine. This principle will help you create the right environment. Encourage and uplift people. Be a “good-finder” with people. You will encounter people that need correcting, but if you just encourage and uplift and let the CD’s and books do the correcting, you will be amazed with your results. Not to mention, you’ll develop a lot of friends. If you create an environment where people feel great every time they are around you and around the association you create, your community will explode. Conversely, if you create an environment that doesn’t make people feel great, they will not stick around long. They will continue their search for a community where they do feel great and write off the LIFE TEAM as “not for them”. I recommend reading the following book: “Bringing Out the Best in People”.

No negative around community: I have been to community-building meetings where the excitement and energy is high, people are getting started, taking first-night material, booking follow-throughs and then here comes someone who’s been around for a while with a long face and proceeds on informing me (at a volume level for all to hear) how all their people didn’t show, how “so and so” quit, and 45 miles was way too far to drive. Within a few minutes, all the energy and excitement is sucked out of the room. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know when you are pursuing greatness and building communities you are going to have frustrating moments. When those moments happen, I am the first to encourage people to talk to their support person or mentor. However, there is a time and place to deal with frustrations…a fired up community-building meeting is not one of them. Develop the discipline and professionalism to have that discussion with your support person or mentor before/after meeting…not during. Only positive around community. I recommend reading, “Developing the Leader Within You”

Empathy, not sympathy: People who get started with LIFE and TEAM typically have big hearts and they want to help people succeed. When building communities, you are going to meet people with sad stories and difficult situations. It is very important when you encounter these situations that you display empathy, not sympathy. Here’s an example between the two: Sympathy says, “I know that you can’t afford to go to the leadership convention in Milwaukee in July, so it’s okay if you don’t go.” Empathy says, “I understand that you can’t afford to go to the leadership convention in Milwaukee in July, but I know that if you want to change your circumstances, you need to be there. What do you say we brainstorm together and figure out a way to help you get the money needed to go.” Sympathy actually hurts people more than helps them. Empathy says you care about them enough to help them fight through their obstacles so they can win in life. Read, “The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People”.

Mentoring: If you’ve ever watched a NASCAR race, what you observed was 40+ cars driving at very high speeds all at once around a racetrack or road course with eventually one driver in the winner’s circle at the end of the race. The driver gets all the credit in the after-race interviews, but most drivers are quick to point out that it took a whole team to collect the victory. One of the members of the team is called a “spotter.” A spotter is positioned in a location where they can see the entire track and remains in communication with the driver at all times. Because the spotter has a different perspective of the race than the driver, he/she is able to help the driver avoid debris, accidents, etc. Basically, the spotter offers the driver information from a different perspective so that mid-race adjustments can be made to give the driver the best chance for victory. This is exactly the role of a mentor when building communities. A mentor can give you a different perspective about a given situation and then provide critical information to help you not only successfully maneuver around the track, but to make sure you win at the end. The driver that does not utilize a spotter is at great risk of crashing and knocking themselves out of the race. This is true of building communities and not using a mentor too. If you want to build large communities of people that will last over time, make sure you mentor on a regular basis. Please listen to the CD titled, “This is Mentoring”.

The fourth and final part of this article coming soon.

God bless and have a great day!

Eric C. Blomdahl

Lessons of a Community Builder – Part 2

I am so grateful and blessed to have been given the opportunity to be associated with Orrin Woodward and the rest of the Policy Council. The information that they have developed regarding building communities through TEAM and helping people live the life they’ve always wanted through LIFE is world-class. I hope you find these lessons helpful.

Lessons of a Community Builder – Part 2:

Grace Over Law: The melancholy part of my personality had a tough time with this one. Let me explain through an example. I had an individual that was relatively new to the community and had incredible potential to become a great leader. He was listening to CD’s, reading books, associating on a regular basis, but was a little hesitant to make phone calls because of fear. Over time, he finally mustered the courage to make a phone call. The phone call was a “no”, but this gentleman was extremely excited about his phone call and couldn’t wait to call me and tell me about it. He explained to me what he did and said and was really fired up.

Now for the moment I wish I could take back…instead of congratulating him on his personal victory of overcoming fear and making the phone call, I chose to concentrate on the fact that it was a “no” and focused the next ten minutes on correcting him on everything he did wrong according to the “LIFE Team Builder’s Textbook”. Over the course of the next 3-4 weeks, he stopped listening to CD’s, stopped reading, stopped associating and drifted away forever. Even after all these years it still weighs heavy on my heart, because I am convinced that if I would have just congratulated him on his courage and be excited with him and for him regardless of the result of the phone call, he would still be around today. Remember, being excited and congratulating on someone’s personal victory (regardless of the end result) is way more important than correcting or condemning.

Relationship Over Task: This principle was tough for the choleric part of my personality. When I take time away from my family to build communities, I want to fill my schedule and maximize my results…which for a choleric means I’m on a mission with tunnel vision…get out of my way. The problem with being on a mission with tunnel vision is that the people who don’t get out-of-the-way get run over. Now here’s the balancing act regarding this principle…develop that “art” of having a specific intent with people while leading with relationship. Most people are either all task or all relationship, but the “art” of this principle is to find the balance between the two. The people who I know who have developed this balance are called Policy Council members of TEAM and Co-Founder’s of LIFE. I recommend getting and listening to the “How to Build Relationships Pack”.

Get it Together, Together: Regardless of whether you’re married or not, this principle is very important when building communities. If you’re single, I am sure that you will be working with people who are married and it will be beneficial for you to know this information. Besides, I am guessing that a good percentage of you will be married someday (impress your future spouse with what a good “catch” you are by mastering this early). If you’re married, it is important to not just be a good example to other couples in your community, but to allow yourself to be blessed by developing the marriage that God intended for you. I recommend listening to the “Marriage Pack” and reading “The Five Love Languages” and “Love and Respect”. Ladies, you can ignore the next sentence. For the guys only…don’t just listen and read…implement…it’s your responsibility to improve your marriage!

Part 3 of this article coming soon.

God bless and have a great weekend!

Eric C. Blomdahl


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